Six Things You Can Do to Support a Friend
It's one of my goals this year to be a better friend. I have been completely self-consumed, with babies and the new (and constant) level of craziness that I have in my life. I couldn't be there for anyone. Honestly, I've hardly been here for myself, but I realize that this busy-ness is my reality, and I need to achieve some sort of balance.
My wise grandmother once said that one of the keys to happiness while growing older is to continue to make and keep good friends. She is going to be 100 this year, so she clearly knows what she is talking about.
I have been reflecting on some of the best things that friends have done for me over the years, and here are a few that really stood out.
To Get Someone Excited
When I was pregnant with Jack, my first-born, a good friend gave me the tiniest, most adorable leather moccasins that I kept out in my living room as a daily reminder that he was coming, and that it was real.
To Support a Transition
After Jack was born, one friend brought over everything required to make a spaghetti dinner, she cooked it at my house, and then she left for us to enjoy it by ourselves. I enjoyed her company, her dinner, and then the time to ourselves after. It was such a sweet and simple idea.
When the twins were born, we were in survival mode. Two great friends combined to get me a gift card to Munchery to order delicious delivery meals whenever we wanted.
When Sadie, our fourth, was born, we received a bag filled with cooked chili, all of the fixings, a couple of beers, and sweets for the kids. It was such a treat!
To Say “You’ve Got This”
Flowers are also incredibly meaningful for me. After a particularly rough patch when the twins were newborns, my sister sent me a bouquet and a note that said "you're doing a great job." I cried when I received it. It meant so much.
To Make Someone Smile
A friend in New York, who I have not connected with in far too long, sent me a hand-written card. Just because. She knew that I loved stationery and wanted to send a note. I still think about it to this day.
What do you like to do for your friends?