When Does It Get Easier?
This morning, I rushed to get my quiet time in before the kids woke up. Hurry! Enjoy this time! Listen to your podcast while you frantically get ready so you can really enjoy this solo time before all four are up and raring to go.
Sadie starts to wake early - she’s making noise at 5:30 but either nods off or stays quiet. Jack is up and ready to watch his favorite videos starting at 6 am, begging me to go downstairs and get out his iPad. I get Sadie at 6, and then get the twins around 6:10. Sadie is happy and playful until the twins get out of bed and start causing commotion. One of the twins is continuing her constant moan-crying from the night before (could this be the worst sound ever?). The other is demanding that she pick out all of her clothes. She ended up wearing her brother’s t-shirt to school. I lost that battle. We somehow make it downstairs and I get the kids set up with videos and milk, while I make breakfast holding Sadie, who has recently decided that she will not be happy unless she is held 100% of the time.
I could go on and on, but I will spare you. This is our daily routine, and it doesn’t seem to get better or change. On any given day or any given hour, it seems like two of the four kids are unhappy and demanding something. It’s such a rare occurrence that everyone is happy and satisfied. Zach and I both experience this, morning or afternoon. Well fed, or not. With fancy new parenting techniques, or not. The one constant that we have established is that life is hard.
I have hesitated to post something like this because I am not asking for pity. I don’t want to activate the family phone tree. I am not struggling. There are far, far worse things in life. I just happen to be in a very hard phase right now, and I wonder how long it will last. Because, seriously, it’s lasting a lot longer than I thought.
Parents of twins, parents of larger families, parents of young children: What was the turning point for you? I am a very goal-oriented person, and I like to point myself toward milestones. I was hoping the twins turning three was one of those milestones, but only two days in, things somehow have been tougher.
What was your experience?
P.S. This song is our anthem right now.